A quote from one of Dan Savage’s Letters of the Day:
…I didn’t advise SFF to dump his girlfriend merely because she won’t allow him to touch her feet. Her refusal to indulge him in a sexual pleasure that requires so little from her—he’s not asking her to learn to tie complicated knots or lay in a tube of ice for 45 minutes before coming to bed—points to more trouble down the road. That kind of selfishness and inconsideration rarely manifests itself in just one area; if this is how she’s treating him where his fetish is concerned…odds are good that she will treat him just as shabbily in other areas (if she isn’t already). Also factored into my advice for SFF: he’s only 23-years-old and he’s been with this woman for four years. Settling down requires settling for, yes, but 19 is awfully young to settle for someone with so little regard for your sexual needs and fulfillment.
Preach, sir, preach.
