A conversation in a woman’s washroom on Interstate 94
The Fiancé© is on the way home from business in Detroit. While at a pitstop today, she was washing her hands when a mother came in with her three small girls.
“Mommy! Mommy! I can hardly wait to get to Minneapolis! I can hardly wait to see the Mall of America! Mommy, is Mall of America the biggest mall in the world?”
“Yes, honey, it is.”
The Fiancé© knows this isn’t true, but she’s figured it’s not worth getting into. The conversation continues.
“You know why we have the biggest mall in the world, Mommy? It’s because God loves America best!”
“That’s right, honey!”
By now it is a wonder the mirror in front of The Fiancé© hasn’t shattered from her glare. She refuses to let the wingnut bullshit fly any more. She turns to the little girl.
“Actually, honey, the biggest malls in the world are in China, the Philippines, Dubai, and Canada. So….I guess god loves them more than he loves us.”
There follows a silence so profound that the ventilation stops running. The mother bristles,
“WELL!!”
and hustled her ankle-biters out the door.
I can’t take The Fiancé© anywhere, which is exactly why I love her.
“In innocence there is no strength against evil, but there is strength in it for good.”
The Sixth Amendment to the U.S. Constitution states
In all criminal prosecutions, the accused shall enjoy the right to a speedy and public trial, by an impartial jury of the State and district where in the crime shall have been committed, which district shall have been previously ascertained by law, and to be informed of the nature and cause of the accusation; to be confronted with the witnesses against him; to have compulsory process for obtaining witnesses in his favor, and to have the Assistance of Counsel for his defence.
This amendment guarantees, among other things, full disclosure of charges to the defendant, a speedy trial by an impartial jury, and assurance that defendant can confront her/his accusers during that trial.
It is difficult enough for an adult to testify in a criminal trial, especially if that adult is the victim of a violent crime. For children, it’s much, much harder. Imagine that you’re an eight-year-old victim of child rape, and your rapist is sitting in the same room with you and staring at you. How convincing do you think you could be to 12 adult strangers and a prosecutor who has tried to impress upon you how important this all is?
As a result, prosecutors of child torture and rape cases (“child abuse cases” does not in the least describe the heinousness of such crimes) have often resorted to videotaping the testimony of children, to be shown to juries. This helps ensure that the child can be forthcoming with information, and was routinely allowed as judges often waived the usual hearsay rules to allow it.
Not any more.
The U.S. Supreme Court, in the case Crawford v. Washington, has ruled that videotaped testimony is in most cases inadmissible, because it denies the defendent his/her 6th Amendment right to confront the accuser.
Locally, a Minneapolis prosecutor has declined to prosecute the case of child torture and rape of Sarah Dingmann’s sons because the case hinged upon videotaped testimony. The defendant has a history of serial pedophilic attacks, and the children have told social service authorities that there was sexual contact with the defendant (who keeps glossy ads of pre-pubescent boys in their underwear in his room).
Cases in Utah and Indiana (and another in Minnesota) all had their verdicts set aside because of the Crawford decision.
Dingmann has started a Facebook page detailing the case, hoping to bring public opinion to bear.
In the meantime, you can help by sending a politely-worded, concise message to our dear governor Tim Pawlenty, state senator Leo Foley, and Hennepin County prosecutor Pat Diamond’s boss Mike Freeman. Here is his email address and phone number (612-348-5550).
…and speaking of definitions…
National Public Radio, in a pitiful attempt to avoid offending anyone (and thereby offending everyone) is now banning use of the phrases “pro-life” and “pro-choice” in their broadcasts.
Now it is to be “those in favor of abortion rights” and “those opposed to abortion rights”.
There is a much simpler way to describe the two groups:
- pro-choice
- anti-choice
That neatly sums up the situation. Those who are pro-choice do not necessarily support abortion itself, but they support an individual’s right to choose to have one, or not.
Those who are anti-choice do not necessarily support the cessation of abortions…wait a minute.
Yeah, they do.
Begin at the beginning
It is so important in discourse to ensure that the terms of language used by all are perceived the same way by all. Confusion results when someone uses a word in a manner that is not recognized by others. Definitions of terms and phrases should be universal in meaning and perception if there is to be meaningful dialog.
That being said, a few clarifications are needed.
1. Bullseye pointed out that the term “pedophile” indicates a predilection toward sexual desires for those younger than age of consent, NOT necessarily those who perform such acts. There are many documented cases of people who identify as non-pedophilic who have indulged in sex with partners under the age of consent.
I will endeavor to be more precise when using the term “pedophile”.
2. There is a great YouTube video featuring Christopher Hitchens, in which he corrects Bill Maher use of language. Maher uses the term “child abuse” to describe the sexual acts committed upon children by many members of the Catholic Church clergy. Hitchens corrects him, saying that “abuse” does not adequate describe the act. I found myself in complete agreement.
Therefore, when I see a chance to use the phrase “child abuse” in my writing, I will be using Hitchen’s phrase “child torture and rape”.
Another example of marketing morons at work
(from the Consumerist)
I’m not sure whether I should feel good about this claim, or not.
At least they got their math right. (56¼% would have more accurate.)
Evolution in a nutshell
From that most sublime of nutshells, George Carlin:
“I realized some time ago that I’m not separate from animals just because I have a primate brain, an upper brain. Because underneath the primate brain there’s the mammalian brain, and beneath the mammalian brain there’s a reptilian brain. And it’s those two lower brains that made the upper brain possible in the first place.
“Here’s the way it works.
“The primate brain says, ‘Give peace a chance‘.
“The mammalian brain says, ‘Give peace a chance, but first let’s kill this motherfucker‘.
“The reptilian brain says, ‘Let’s just kill the motherfucker, go to the peace rally, and get laid’.“
“Better Days”
I don’t generally quote song lyrics in my posts. They just don’t have the same impact as the song itself. However, I discovered this song about the time I met Trophy Fiancé©, and I listened to this song eleventy-one times on the way back from our first meeting.
She made me feel exactly the way this song describes.
~~~
Well, my soul checked out missing as I sat listening
To the hours and minutes tickin’ away.
Yeah just sittin’ around waitin’ for my life to begin
While it was all just slippin’ away.
I’m tired of waitin’ for tomorrow to come,
Or that train to come roarin’ ’round the bend.
I got a new suit of clothes, a pretty red rose,
And a woman I can call my friend.
[chorus] These are better days, baby.
Yeah there’s better days shining through.
These are better days, baby.
Better days with a girl like you.
Well I took a piss at fortune’s sweet kiss.
It’s like eatin’ caviar and dirt.
It’s sad funny ending to find yourself pretending
A rich man in a poor man’s shirt.
Now my ass was draggin’ when from a passin’ gypsy wagon,
Your heart like a diamond shone.
Tonight I’m layin’ in your arms carvin’ lucky charms
Out of these hard luck bones.
[chorus]
Now a life of leisure and a pirate’s treasure
Don’t make much for tragedy.
But it’s a sad man my friend who’s livin’ in his own skin
And can’t stand the company.
Every fool’s got a reason for feelin’ sorry for himself
And turning his heart to stone.
Tonight this fool’s halfway to heaven and just a mile outta hell,
And I feel like I’m comin’ home.
[chorus]

Bill Donohue

